5 Things to do When Life Gets Messy

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Things have felt a little messy recently. I found out that my book was stuck on a port in a far off place, and that after months of planning the timing of every last detail to correspond with the launch date, I would have to delay my launch by three weeks. Starting to travel for my next book project has been both exhilarating and exhausting. I didn’t sleep or eat well, and one night there was a man who screamed outside my hotel room for three straight hours. I came home to an empty refrigerator and a basket full of unopened mail and a to-do list a mile long. My phone is doing weird things. I’m anxious about climate change. Somewhere in there I started eating reckless amounts of sugar…

Under normal circumstances, life can be messy and overwhelming and painful – and with Covid… yikes. I don’t presume to have all of the answers, but I’m going to share the top five things that I do when I feel completely overloaded.

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Cry it Out

I’m not kidding. Holding it all together all of the time is exhausting. Try surrendering to the overwhelm/anxiety/pity party. If you need privacy to let go, schedule a time when you can be alone, and allow yourself the catharsis of a good old fashioned cry. Don’t hold back. The uglier the better. Let. It. Out.

Get Some Rest

There’s really nothing like a good night’s sleep to help get you back on track. Do things that help you wind down at the end of the day. Take a hot epsom salt bath. Put your tech away. Get in bed early. Pro Tip: My husband tells me that the only thing that rivals a good night’s sleep is a solid nap. I say pro tip because he is a semi-professional napper. Anywhere, anytime. Lucky duck.

Talk It Out

A good venting session with a dear friend, family member, coach or therapist can help you get things out of your head and give you some perspective. Sometimes it just helps to commiserate with someone you love and trust even if they can’t solve anything for you. A session with a good empathic listener can go a long, long way.

Move Your Body

Exercise can be the best medicine and an instant mood booster. If you tend to get stuck spiraling or overanalyzing like I do, get those walking shoes ready and head right out the door. Even fifteen minutes of fresh air and movement can help completely reset when the going gets tough.

Take (tiny) Action

When everything feels like too much, it helps to get laser focused on what’s right in front of you. It will feel empowering to make a list and find items that you can cross off by taking small actions. Knock out an important email or phone call. Tidy up. Do the dishes.

Above all else, try to be kind to yourself and not work yourself into a full lather. Do your very best not to eat marshmallows straight out of the bag (I told you, it’s been MESSY). Accept that life feels hard, then take a deep breath and focus your attention on the things in your life that are going well. And always remember that the only constant in life is change, so whatever storm you’re weathering is sure to blow over soon enough.

Anyone else going through it recently? I’d love to know the simple strategies that have been helping you.

Photography Credit: Vivian Johnson 

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