What to do When It’s All Too Much

I set some big goals for myself this year, both personally and professionally. I decided I want to work out four times a week. I promised to carve out more quality time with my kids and husband. I’m continuing to see clients full time while developing, and launching, a virtual Closet Makeover Program. It’s a lot. Normally, I excel when it comes to making lists and executing, but recently, I found myself totally overwhelmed. It all felt like too much.

I know from my training as a coach that our thoughts dictate our feelings, which drive our actions, and ultimately determine our results. So, if I wanted to feel less overwhelmed and get out of panic mode, it was time to work on changing my thoughts. The thought that helped me the most was, “I can break all of this down into pieces and complete one thing at a time.” That mindset shift helped convert my overwhelm into action, and I came up with the following practice:

Start With A Thought Download

When you feel overwhelmed, try writing everything that’s swirling around in your head down on paper. Don’t judge or edit yourself. It may just sound like, “oh my god, I have so much to do, I am so overwhelmed, there’s no way I can manage all of this, gaaaaa…” Just get it out and onto paper.

Break it Down

Now, that you’ve given your brain a chance to freak out a little, jot all of your tasks down onto a master to-do list. When I made mine I sorted everything into categories: professional, family, and personal to-dos, and then created separate mini lists within my master to-do list for each category.  If you were trying to organize your entire home, you would break it down room by room. If you were a student, you could break your list down by course or subject. Just write down every single thing that you want to get done.

Learn how to complete your goals or to-do list with these easy steps.

Trim The Fat

Before you move into action, it’s important to question the importance of everything on your list. Is it really necessary? Can you put it on a “someday” list? Can you delegate it? Can you let it go? Let go of anything that doesn’t line up with your current goals and priorities, or feel urgent and necessary.


Next, it’s essential to rank each item on your master to-do list in order of priority. You will remain overwhelmed and paralyzed if you attempt to do everything at once. (I know – remember, I felt totally paralyzed before I did this.) Assign a number to the items that made the cut with “1” being the most important task. You can also do this within each category if you prefer – I kept my personal and professional lists separate and simply ranked each list in order of priority.

Complete One Thing at a Time

Now, all you have to do is stay completely focused on the first thing on your list. Ignore the rest. It will be tempting to want to knock out some of the easier things on your list, but do your best to stay focused so you can have the experience of completing just one thing at a time in order of priority.

Tip: Check out the book The One Thing, which outlines how focusing your energy on only one thing will lead to greater efficiency and success. Another example is the concept of the debt snowball plan which has you focus all of your resources on paying off one credit card at a time until you are completely out of debt.

Ultimately, using this approach helped me to quiet my buzzing mind and get focused enough to complete one major task. The relief was immediate and allowed me to keep moving through my list one item at a time.

Between ambitious resolutions and existing responsibilities, it’s common to feel overwhelmed this time of year. Try breaking down your to-dos into categories, and then tackling them methodically in order of priority. I’d love to hear how it goes, or if you have other methods that have worked for you.

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Your Kids Don’t Want to Inherit Your Clutter

As my father’s oldest child, and his only local family member, I was left with the overwhelming task of resolving his estate when he died unexpectedly. I remember arriving at his house to assess the situation, and exhaling when I opened his basement door and found a neat stack of bankers boxes with all of his legal documents clearly labeled, and four clear bins filled with his only memorabilia. My father-in-law, who was helping me reconcile his estate, turned to me and said, “Your father did a good job. This will be easy.”

One of the biggest gifts my father gave me when he died was leaving behind an organized home. Because having to sort through excessive amounts of disorganized clutter while you’re grieving is excruciating. I know because as a professional organizer I’ve helped hundreds of families de-clutter their homes, many of which included attics, basements, and garages overstuffed with inherited items. Collections of old china. Crates of yellowed photos. Boxes and boxes of bric-a-brac. It’s challenging enough to contend with your own household clutter, but having to sort through and make sense of someone else’s clutter can feel like you’re drowning.

Nobody wants to think about dying, but if you want to make things easier on your children, it’s important to be intentional about what you leave behind. Here’s how you can avoid burdening your kids when you die:


Whoever is in charge of resolving your estate will need to be able to easily locate your important documents, account information, and contact numbers. Playing detective and tracking down random accounts is not a fun task, so best to make it easy on them:

• Review your paperwork annually, and make sure to recycle or shred anything that is outdated or unnecessary. Ask your accountant or trusted financial advisor for current guidelines on what legal documents to keep. Get rid of the rest. Nobody wants to look at your bank statements from 1982.

• Clearly label your files in broad categories so they will make sense to someone who is not you. Create a designated file (or file box) for all of your most important life documents. Label it prominently. If the file box is locked, or the files are in a safe deposit box, make sure someone you trust knows how to access them.

• Create a comprehensive list of all of your accounts with passwords and contact info for your advisors — financial, insurance, real estate brokers, etc. This is something that will be helpful to you while you’re alive but will be essential for whoever is in charge of reconciling your estate.

Get rid of your clutter now, so your kids don't have to. Here's some great tips!


Do you have precious jewelry, art, or family heirlooms you plan to pass on to your children? I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen family members try to sort out which of Grandma Esther’s pearls are the real ones or which of the dozens of paintings left in the attic are actually worth something. Create a list of descriptions and/or images to reference, so ensure your kids know what items are actually valuable and important. Tell them where each item is located and whom you plan to leave what so there is no drama or confusion.


This is an easy one! Most music and entertainment platforms have become obsolete in the digital age. If you have a library of dusty CDs, DVDs, or even cassette tapes … well, don’t. These items can be bulky and difficult to recycle so digitize them if you haven’t, then donate them as soon as possible. Most households also have drawers full of old cameras, video recorders and electronics that rarely see the light of day. Match up your cords with the electronic devices you actually use and ditch the rest including the random cords and accessories.


Do you have 25 mismatched mugs? Are you storing dozens of reusable tote bags or maybe three kitchen appliances that all do the same thing? Spoiler alert: Your kids don’t want to deal with any of them. Review your household items and streamline. Ditch anything that’s broken, outdated, or unused. If you have duplicates, choose the ones that are in the best condition and donate the rest. Your children will thank you.


Here’s what I want to leave my kids: one clearly labeled bin filled with the memorabilia that is truly meaningful to me. One. Bin. Here’s why: I don’t want my daughters to have to sift through an overstuffed basement wondering what I cared about or what they should hold on to. I want to make it as easy as possible for them. Also, I truly believe that the less you keep, the more meaningful it becomes. Once you edit and organize your memorabilia down to your most treasured essentials, store the treasures in waterproof, labeled, airtight bins. Cardboard boxes disintegrate and get dusty over time, and nobody wants to sift through old boxes filled with cobwebs.

Help your kids to not inherit your clutter by following this simple advice.

Bonus: Do your kids a favor and help them to thoughtfully curate their own memorabilia now. One or two boxes of the most cherished treasures is much more manageable and meaningful, than dozens of them. One day all of it will be passed back to them, and most adults don’t want to care for and store heaps of childhood mementos — even their own.

*A version of this was originally published on Modern Loss. This is being republished with their permission. You can read the full article right here.

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5 Reasons You Should Love Your Competition

I’ll admit it – I’m a very competitive person. I like winning. I like feeling successful. But, until a few years ago I was not very good at embracing my competition. I didn’t believe that there was enough room for all of us to succeed. When I came across someone with a stunning website, a new book release, or prominent media attention, I would feel instantly jealous and threatened. I would assume that their success meant there was less available for me. It did not feel good.

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All of this changed a few years ago.  A woman named Carly, who had recently left her law career to become a professional organizer, reached out to connect with me. I had been a solo entrepreneur for years, and while I loved what I did, I had also found it isolating. Carly and I connected right away, and when she invited me to join her for lunch with several other professional organizers the next time I was in LA, I jumped at the chance.

That was when everything shifted. I instantly connected with the other women who showed up for that lunch. We talked for hours about business and motherhood and juggling our busy lives. One by one, we opened up about our challenges, and jumped in to share resources.  It didn’t take long for all of the walls to come down.

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What struck me was that it was clear we were all hungry to connect, collaborate, and support each other, even though we were in the exact same industry building similar businesses. I was incredulous that this could be possible but so excited to be proven wrong.

Fast forward a few years and this circle of supportive women has evolved and just keeps growing. We send each other referrals, share resources, and help promote each other. I am genuinely excited to celebrate their successes. Many have become my dear friends. But here’s the craziest part – not only have I become friends with my competition, I have seen that we have all become more successful not in spite of, but because we support each other.

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Because of my experiences over the past few years, my mindset has totally shifted. When I notice someone killing it and feel a pang of jealousy, I now reach out to connect instead of allowing myself to get paralyzed with envy or insecurity. Although it’s sometimes scary to take a risk and put yourself out there, I’ve been humbled by the reaction. Across the board,  it seems that most people are eager to connect.

So, simply put, here’s why you should not only embrace, but love your competition:

Your Competition Can Help You Identify What’s Possible

Don’t take another person’s success as a sign that you’re losing, take it as a sign of what’s possible. I remember seeing my colleague, Beth from Bneato Bar, collaborate with some prominent bloggers a few years ago. The idea had never occurred to me, but after connecting with Beth (who was kind enough to encourage me) I was inspired to reach out and set up some great collaborations of my own. Your competition may be two steps ahead of you, but instead of feeling jealous, take notes and go out and create what you want!

Why it's important to embrace your competition and how it can make you more successful. Image: Bneato Bar via The Hollywood Reporter

You Can Clarify your Own Goals

Jealousy is a great roadmap to our desires. I’ve learned to be curious when I feel jealous, and to take notes. Let your feelings of jealousy help clarify what you want, or don’t want, in your own life. Once you’ve identified what you’re seeking, you can stop worrying about what someone else is doing and put your energy into moving towards your own goals.

It’s A Major Confidence Builder

The better your competition does, the better it is for you, because their success validates the industry that you’re working in. It is your choice whether you’re going to be intimidated by your competition or embrace them. By asking your competition to meet for coffee, you are showing your own strength and allowing for the possibility of collaboration and growth for both of you.

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Your Competitor May Become Your Best Friend

You most likely have a lot in common with your direct competition. Maybe you are driven by the same things, share common interests or goals, or all of the above. By rejecting your competition you may be missing out on connecting with your new BFF.

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It Feels Good to Be Generous

I know a brilliant teacher who encourages her students to use any of her content for their own businesses without even crediting her. I aspire to have that level of confidence in my own ability to create content, and to exercise the same generosity of spirit to invest in other people’s success. Let’s root for each other and help each other grow.


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Simply put, when women support each other incredible things can happen. There is no gain in tearing others apart, no virtue in attacking or belittling your competitors. It feels so much better to come from a place of abundance and to choose to believe that there is enough pie for all of us. And really, who doesn’t like pie?

It's great to be competitive but loving your competition can bring so much to your professional and personal life than you could ever imagine.

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Thank you to the following women for contributing their beautiful work to be featured in this post. I am inspired by all of them, and I am honored to call them my competitors, colleagues, and friends.

Bneato Bar // Carly Waters Style // Simply Spaced // Practically Perfect // Jean Gordon Style // Life in Jeneral // Clutter Healing


How to Set Big Goals and Actually Achieve Them

It’s a new year and a fresh start! If you’re tired of watching yourself set goals and fail to see them through, I’ve got just the thing for you! This is a modified version of an exercise I’ve adapted from a fantastic self-coaching program created by one of my mentors, Brooke Castillo. I’ve been using it in my own life with great success, so I wanted to share it with all of you as we embark on a new year.

Grab a pen and a notebook and let’s get started:

Start With a Thought Download

Let’s start by brainstorming all of the goals you have for 2018. Big or small, trivial or bold, just write them down and get them out of your head.

Learn a major secret to achieving your goals from professional organizer Shira Gill.

Pick One Big Goal for the Year

Now pick the biggest, juiciest goal from your list. Constraining yourself to one big goal at a time will help you stay focused. Don’t overthink which one is the best or most important. Just go with your gut and pick one. Whatever you pick will be perfect as long as you don’t change it.

Write Down Why It’s Impossible

Now that you’ve picked your big goal for the year, let’s give your brain a chance to freak out a little. It will be prone to get anxious and want to protect you when you take risks and move out of your comfort zone, so let’s indulge it a little. Write down all of the reasons your big goal is impossible. Let your mind go to work brainstorming all of the reasons it will never work and you are destined to fail. Fun, right?

Create a Counter Argument

Now, for each reason you wrote down, you’re going to create a strong counter argument. Write down a strategy for each obstacle you came up with, and create a plan for how you will overcome it. Make sure your plans are specific and actionable.

The best strategy to achieving your goals in 2018.


Take Massive Action

OK. So you have your big goal. You’ve written down your potential challenges and obstacles and created a specific plan to overcome each one. Now you have to stay totally committed to your goal and map out a plan to take massive action. Write down at least 25 actions you will take in pursuit of your big goal. It may help to tell yourself that you are going to plan “25 epic fails.” When you use this language, your brain has nothing to resist against, and it takes the pressure off. Now you can move boldly forward without the fear of failure because you’ve already decided to fail ahead of time! Tricky, eh?

Plan and Schedule Your Action Items

Once you’ve come up with your 25 actions/failures, make sure to map them all out on your calendar. Block out time to complete each task, even if it’s just a three minute email or a quick phone call. Put every single one in your calendar so you are set up for success.

Are you ready? As we all know, the only true failure is never attempting your goals at all. So let this be the year you go big and take some major risks. I’m certainly going to, and I hope you’ll join me. (Stay tuned – I’ll be launching my “big goal” later this year.) Cheers to 2018!

P.S. If you liked this post and want help tackling the rest of your goals, check out my other post: Goal Setting That Works.

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The Jet Set Guide: My Top 5 Packing Tips

I’ve been doing a lot of traveling recently, and I wanted to share my top tips for those of you who are hitting the road.

Pack Snacks to Refuel

Pack your favorite healthy snacks, and energy bars, so you can avoid splurging on overpriced snacks when hunger strikes in airports and in touristy locations. My favorite grab-and-go snacks are nuts, dried fruit, and these bars.

Keep the Essentials with You

Make copies of your passport, flight info, and important documents to keep with you at all times. If you are checking a bag, make sure to keep a change of clothing, toiletries, medications, and toothbrush with you just in case your luggage gets lost or misplaced. (It’s also helpful to leave flight info and a copy of your passport with a trusted friend or family member.)

Keep It Light

Try to pack as little as possible so you have less to lug around. (This is a great time to experiment with trying a capsule wardrobe!) Make sure to wear your jacket and bulkiest items such as boots and hats on the plane so you can maximize the space in your suitcase.

Be Your Own Pharmacy

Make sure to pack your daily vitamins as well as any basic meds you may need if you get sick. I ended up getting a bad cold in Japan and found it comically challenging to decipher the over-the-counter meds that were all in Japanese. In the future I will bring a mini kit stocked with cold and flu medicine, just in case.

Pack a Gift Tote

Pack a flat tote, or lightweight duffle, in your suitcase in case you pick up gifts or bulky items that can’t fit comfortably into your suitcase on the way home.

Happy holidays, and safe travels!

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Inspiration: My New Favorite Organizing Book

I have been a huge fan of Remodelista for years and when I heard about their new book and website dedicated to all things home organizing, I did a happy dance around my living room.

The book is not only beautiful, but also filled with simple, stylish, practical ideas for every room in your home.

Here's a great book that teaches you all about organization.

I’m also a huge fan of their organizing manifesto which includes sage advice such as: Buy fewer (and better) things, shop from your own home, steal ideas from teachers and shopkeepers, and establish habits and routines that simplify your life.

The book also includes a comprehensive list of resources including closet organizers, carts, hooks, office supplies, and other stylish utility items.

Need a home organization book? Here's a great one that inspires Shira Gill.

Treat yourself to the book (also a thoughtful gift) or check out the website which is also chock full of great tips.

Happy organizing!

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Last-Minute Gift Guide

Sometimes, I don’t follow my own advice and need to pick up last-minute gifts. Here are some of my favorite items (all under $100) that can easily be ordered online in time for the holidays:

Here is a last-minute gift guide that will help you out this holiday season.

Turkish Cotton Robe: Chic, comfy and perfect for weekend lounging.

Chic Sleep Set: This one is on my winter wish-list for sure.

Neck Pillow + Eye Mask: A sweet set for the stylish traveler.

Leather Zip Cardholder: Lightweight and practical and I love the tassel detail!

Leather Tassel Keychain: Monogram for a personal touch!

Gold Tassel Earrings: A little holiday bling at a great price.

The Best Water Bottle: Keeps liquids cold for 24-hours or hot for 12-hours. Enough said.

Simone LeBlanc Gift Set: Loving these super chic gift sets which can be mailed out with a custom note.

Happy Gifting!

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The 5 Best Things to Spend Your Money On

What do you spend the majority of your disposable income on?  Maybe eating out, or shopping, or my own guilty pleasure… shoes? Research has shown that the thrill of a new purchase is relatively short-lived, but the payoff that comes with experiences is ultimately significantly more satisfying and impactful. Clearly spending on experiences offers the best return on investment, but I know from experience that it’s far too easy to get off track (shoes). So I spent some time reflecting on how I currently spend my money and  how I would prefer to invest it.

Here are the winners in no particular order:

Look at what you spend your money on and ask yourself is it worth it? Shira Gill provides five things to spend your money on that is more impactful to your life.

Self Improvement + Mental Health

I spent a bucket of money last year on a 6-month coaching program and certification that changed my life. When my father died unexpectedly five years ago, I invested in multiple support groups, therapy, and coaching. Next year, I will be participating in a mastermind group with my business mentor and studying with an incredible group of entrepreneurs. I can’t think of a better investment than spending on personal growth and mental health.

Physical Fitness

Raise your hand if you feel better after a good workout. Me too. So why not invest in your physical health and fitness? I love spending money on group workout classes like yoga and spin classes and always feel like I got my money’s worth and then some. Since my philosophy is always to buy fewer, better things, I am also a fan of splurging on stylish workout attire which helps me get motivated to get moving.


There is an old saying that travel is the only thing you can buy that makes you richer and I couldn’t agree more. This year I made it a goal to travel more and went to London, Paris, and Tokyo. These trips added so much value to my life and travel always shifts my values and perspective. Priceless.


The concept of self-care means different things to different people. The $20 eyebrow sculpt I get once a month makes me very happy. I have friends who prefer a good massage, a pedicure, or a reboot with an acupuncturist. Invest in whatever floats your boat and treat yourself as often as possible.

Random Acts of Kindness

My Dad used to pay bridge toll for the person behind him because we would get such a thrill from turning and seeing their elated face when the toll-taker waved them ahead. The best! Equally delightful activities include buying coffee or cocktails for a stranger, supporting a cause you believe in, leaving a massive tip, or treating an under-appreciated staff member to lunch.

So, what will you be investing in this year? Think about what will bring you the most lasting impact and feel free to share in the comments below!

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Emergency Kits: Simplified

We live in between a major supermarket and a hospital, so for years I’ve been flip about making an emergency kit. But after the past few months of national disasters, my husband and I agreed that it was time to get serious. The information out there can be overwhelming, so I turned to my friend, and sustainability expert, Friday Apaliski, for help. Friday is a wealth of information and actually helps make custom emergency kits for busy families as part of her services. I had questions and she had answers:

When emergency strikes, be prepared! Learn how to put together emergency kits for your family home and car.

Q: I’m overwhelmed! What are the essentials I should stock for my family? What are the most important things to have?

Friday suggests stocking a three-day supply, at minimum, of the following supplies:

Water // You’ll want a minimum of one gallon per person per day. Bottled water isn’t regulated and can grow bacteria over time. If you want to avoid the hassle of swapping out water, invest in this 50-year water and you will be set for years.

Food // Friday recommends stocking up on your favorite energy bars instead of canned goods, which can leak. Similarly, freeze dried options generally don’t appeal to children. Also, don’t forget baby formula and any daily supplements or prescription drugs.

First Aid // Make sure to include the following in your kit: Prescription glasses, an inhaler or other required medical device, sunscreen, toilet paper, feminine hygiene products, and a basic first aid kit.

Documents // It’s important to have copies of social security cards, birth certificates, titles of cars, and passports. You can keep these items in a locked, fireproof box for security.

Tools + Supplies // You have to imagine that even if your home doesn’t fall down, there could be shattered glass and navigation could be very difficult. Make sure to stock some tools in your kit to help you turn off the gas line and deal with any major home issues. This includes a basic set of pliers, a crow bar, duct tape, plastic sheeting (or heavy plastic bags that can be used for glass clean up), a tarp, a flashlight, and a pair of leather work gloves. Also, it’s worth investing in a radio that’s a flashlight/radio combo. You can store all of your supplies in a secure, waterproof bin or chest. If you’re storing your kit outside, make sure to put a lock on it to protect it from theft.

Q: I spend a lot of time out of my home in the car. Do I need another kit for the car?

Yes, it’s important to stock a car kit since you don’t know where you’ll be in the event of an emergency. Your car kit should include the following items to make sure you’re prepared: medication, eyeglasses, extra set of keys, change of clothing, water and snack bars, cash in small bills, first aid kit, flashlight, portable radio, cell phone chargers, and copies of your I.D.

Q: What else should I know to make sure my family is prepared?

1. A landline phone can be used in an emergency to call 911 – an internet phone (VOIP) cannot.

2. It is easier to call out of town than to call within town during an emergency, so designate a family member outside of your local area as the person everyone will call to report in about safety and whereabouts.

3. If you can’t meet at your home, decide where you and your loved ones will meet. Make sure to review the plan with all members of your family.

Thank you, Friday! I am so grateful to have all of this information simplified. On my to-do list: order the suggested supplies and set up a family meeting to review emergency protocol so we all feel more prepared and on the same page.  Who’s with me?

If you need help sourcing or setting up your kit, make sure to get in touch with Friday right here!

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Your Stress-Free Holiday Shopping Guide

Does holiday shopping fill you with dread each time winter rolls around? You are not alone. Stress-free holiday shopping is possible! Read below for some quick tips to help ensure you tackle this shopping season with ease:

Shop Well In Advance

Instead of battling massive crowds in December, hit your favorite shops early. If possible, shop on a weekday or arrive right at opening time when retail shops are calm and quiet. You can also opt for a gift wrap option at most boutiques and department stores so your holiday gifts will be wrapped and ready to go!

Here's are some stress-free shopping tips for this holiday season.

Order Online

With the click of a button you can order almost anything under the sun! While I love shopping locally and supporting small businesses, I also can’t resist the ease of online shopping as we approach the holidays. Make sure to stock some gift wrap paper and labels since most online purchases don’t come wrapped. I love using simple brown butcher paper with pretty ribbon and customized gift tags. (See some great options here).

Opt for Clutter-Free Gifts

My favorite gifts to give and receive are experiential, not tangible.  Get creative and make a gift card for breakfast in bed, dinner and a movie, or a spa date. These thoughtful gifts don’t require any shopping or wrapping so it is a total win-win. You can read my favorite clutter-free gift ideas right here.

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