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How to Cultivate an Abundant Mindset

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Since I am a professional organizer, people assume that the primary focus of my work is organizing. I don’t blame them. If I didn’t know better, I would too. The truth is, when I work with clients we spend the majority of our time editing their belongings and making decisions about what to keep and what to discard or donate. For most people, this process does not come easily, and requires coaching, support, and encouragement. Organizing what’s left is the easy part.

Many of my clients have confessed that they wish they felt able to let go of things with ease, but really what they feel is conflict, guilt, anxiety, and a lot of scarcity. The question has emerged again and again: How do you cultivate a more abundant mindset? After hearing the same question so many times, I decided to dedicate a post to it.


Read on for simple steps you can take to start feeling more abundant in your life, regardless of what you own, or how much money you have in the bank.

Practice Abundant Thoughts

Stephen Covey defines an abundant mentality as ”a concept in which a person believes there are enough resources and successes to share with others.” But how can we learn how to genuinely believe this, especially if we have experienced loss or hardship in the past? I believe the answer lies in looking for evidence of abundance in your life and practicing thoughts or beliefs, that create feelings of abundance.

Abundance is a mindset not a dollar amount in the bank. When have you felt the most abundant in your own life? Identify the thoughts you were thinking at that time that generated that feeling. Regardless of the circumstances in your life, you can feel more abundant right now just by practicing new thoughts.

Here are some of the thoughts that help me feel abundant:

Even if I lost everything, I am surrounded by people who would help me rebuild my home and life.

I have bounced back from many challenges – I am resilient and strong.

I am creative and resourceful, so I will always be able to create the results I want.

I am so grateful for my husband, children, friends, and community. 

I can make a beautiful, cozy home wherever I go.

Almost every object or thing is replaceable.

The things that matter most to me are not things.

I’ll always have enough.

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Give Generously

It’s counterintuitive, but one of the easiest ways to feel more abundant is to give generously. Generosity and abundance go hand in hand, and the more you give, the more abundant you will feel.

Giving doesn’t have to translate into large financial donations or lavish gifts. You can give by smiling and saying hello to people on your morning walk. You can bake cookies or drop off a home cooked meal or flowers from your garden for a friend or neighbor. You can call an old friend and really listen to how they are doing. You can leave an extra generous tip when you order takeout at your neighborhood restaurant.

You can also practice random acts of kindness throughout your day. Hold a door open for a stranger, help someone load groceries into their car, buy a cup of coffee for the person in line behind you at your local coffee shop. When I was growing up, my dad would always pay the bridge toll for the person behind us in line. I would turn around as we drove away and squeal with delight when I saw them learn that their toll had been paid. Being generous with your resources, time, and energy reinforces the idea that you have more than enough.

Take Stock of What You Already Have

It’s human nature to strive for more, but if you want to cultivate an abundant mindset, you must also focus your energy and attention on noticing and celebrating the abundance of what you already have. You can start by making a list of all of the things that you once wanted that you now have. This list can include material possessions such as your car, a home, clothes, or favorite ceramic mugs (I really, really love my mugs), but can also include relationships or accomplishments – your partner or spouse, children, friendships, family members, career, daily yoga practice, health, etc. The more specific the better. Your list can also become part of a gratitude practice. I love to write down at least three things I am grateful for every day.

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Don’t Compare and Despair

Perhaps the greatest obstacle to an abundant mindset is comparing yourself to other people. It’s so easy to compare our insides to someone else’s outsides, and the glossy images on social media and magazine pages doesn’t make it any easier. Do your best to stay focused on your own situation and to create your own metrics for happiness and success. Take time to define what an abundant life means to you and then go out and get it.

Set Goals and Achieve Them

Abundance doesn’t have to come from wealth or material possessions. You can cultivate abundance in your life by setting specific and measurable goals and achieving them. Learn a new language, start a new habit, tackle a fitness goal, master something, make something, create something. Leading a joyful, varied, and dynamic life creates abundance in spades. Take small steps towards long term goals and celebrate every little victory along the way!

Do More of What You Love

Abundance is about feeling deeply satisfied and fulfilled. Make a list of things you love to do – ideally things that feel mentally, physically, or spiritually rewarding. These things can be small and simple like reading a novel or baking a pie, or big and ambitious like running a marathon or writing a book. Pay attention to what you genuinely enjoy doing and do more of it.

If any of this feels challenging for you, not to worry. You’re certainly not alone. Cultivating an abundant mindset is an ongoing practice that gets easier with time. The most important thing, of course, is to start.

You’re more than enough, and I believe in you. You’ve got this.

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14 comments on “How to Cultivate an Abundant Mindset

  1. I love the story about your dad paying the next guy’s toll. Your stories about him and your relationship with him always warm my heart. Thanks for always providing deep and substantive content.

    All the best.

  2. This is the best post. I need to read this every day! I know all of this intuitively, but really thinking consciously about this and more often could lead me to be a kinder and gentler person and more satisfied and happy in my life.

  3. Getting rid of items and moving them on to others that can use them is not the issue for me (am currently doing a thorough purge of the attic). I have a memory of my children associated with each toy, blanket, etc. and I’m afraid I’ll forget it when I give the item away. They are grown and have moved away so I send a pic of the item and we remember: then I feel I can move it on. We hardly bought anything but/because my family was over generous and I was not listened to in this area! We also had the room to store outgrown toys (and I was thinking ahead to grandchildren, of which there is no sign as yet). All that to say I am now dealing with a lot of items and it is very emotional but it is getting done day by day😬. Currently mending quilts and comforters to take to the homeless shelter and washing stuffed animals/dolls. I don’t want my children to have to deal with all this “stuff” so this is my gift to them ❤️ P.S. They each keep an Amazon list for me so when I want to send them something, I just choose something off their list✨

    1. I love your approach – so thoughtful to mend your quilts and donate them to shelters. And what a gift to your children to have this work done ahead of time. Lovely!

  4. Shira, Thank you for this wonderful article!! I learned long ago not to compare myself to others!! See, I’m disabled and depend on a machine to live for the last 26 years. BUT, I don’t see myself that way!!! I love my life and family!!! Life is a gift!!! Don’t waste one precious minute!!! I can do things with my hands so I want to start cross-stitching again and then embroidery!! I used to draw (all kinds of art-my college degree is Fine Arts) so I want to also draw botanicals!!! My best friend wants to learn crochet so I’m going to learn with her!! All of this is so fun!!!

    1. Oh, Natalie! What an incredible gift to have such a positive mindset about life. Thank you so much for sharing. You have inspired me, and surely will do the same for others. Xx

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